Arguments: THEIR perspective

5 Mar

Write about the last disagreement you had with a friend or family member — from their perspective.’ I have arguments with staff all the time, because all the time I find they cannot see things from our students’ perspective.

If I look at it from the inside out, though, here is what I see:

  • Behaviours, lots of it, various types, not too sure what it means but likely that he’s naughty
  • Disruption to my class
  • Callous and cold, no empathy for others
  • Alienates themselves from others by behaviour that is a bit weird
  • Students without empathy are deemed to be of a lesser level of Intellect. This is not always accurate. They can seem self centred, when in fact, they lack the capacity, tools and processes by which they would understand how other people feel. Where you might look for visual clues, our student is looking at the scene through an entirely different lense.

    A student who is having difficulties with the situation, class, room, people, task, whatever, is unable to tell you that. Instead they will display learned behaviour that they know digest a predictable and desired response: ie removed from the classroom. That usually means disruptive behaviour, its the only way they know how to tell you.

    Behaviour is a communication of some kind. Usually it means all’s not well, and they need to adults to redress the balance, usually sensory overload related.

    All in all, we need to look at the world from a different angle, through slightly different tinted glasses, whatever metaphor you want to use.

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    3 Responses to “Arguments: THEIR perspective”

    1. Wiley Schmidt March 6, 2013 at 04:22 #

      Behavior is sometimes more powerful communication than words. Well done. 🙂

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